Tuesday, August 07, 2012

Enough is Enough (Middle)

Giving all you have…

What does it mean to go above and beyond verse just doing what is necessary to get by?

If a person plans on getting through life by doing the bare minimum does it mean that they’re a bad person?

Or does a person who goes that extra mile every day overreaching?

This is something that I have been thinking about for the past week or so.  I mean I like to go above and beyond not just to make myself feel good but the best part about doing that is to make whomever you are helping feel good and happy. 

I have been thinking about this because I love my job but sometimes it is really hard.  And the hardest thing about my job is that I work with people every day.  I am a manager at a restaurant and no matter what I do sometimes whatever I do to go out of my way to help an individual it ends up unappreciated.  And not only is it unappreciated by the customers but also with the people that I work with. 

It has reached the point where I sometimes don’t want to go to work because I know that there will be people that will try and break my spirits down and make me feel terrible.  And I am aware that I should not let people tear me down but at the same time when it happens every day then it can get exhausting to just simply try and ignore that.

So my thinking has taken me to the conclusion that perhaps going above and beyond is not the best thing that a person can do.  Unless, of course, you go out of your way to help someone who would be willing to do the same for you. 

Also what really helped me decision was that if I do something nice for you and you don’t say thank you then I know that what I did was unnoticed and unappreciated.    

That not only tells but more importantly shows me that you don’t care about whether I do anything nice for you. 

So my question to you…

Is it worth stress on yourself to make others happy all the time?


Andrew Leon said...

Well, it's up to people to be happy or not. There's nothing you can do to make them happy. Mostly, the people you are dealing with have already decided to not be happy, and you're not going to be able to fix that.

Middle said...

Yeah i can more than agree with you on that...I think that's sad...I think that it's so much better to be happy but I guess that's just me

Briane P said...

You don't have to worry about making other people happy; you just have to worry about doing what's right. It's the right thing to do, to do your job well, regardless of whether people appreciate it or thank you for it.

But negative stuff is easier to notice than positive stuff. Instead of noticing how many people don't react well, focus on those who do, and focus on the fact that you've done things well.

You can't control how other people feel. But you can control how YOU feel. And if you stop working up to your potential and goals because other people suck, you'll feel worse.